If you read the title of this post and thought, “Zoey,” you would be right.
You might ask yourself, How can such a sweet kitty be a bully? I mean, it’s not like Zoey has ever given us a look that said, Get that camera out of my face.
Or a look that said, Do you mind? I’m beating up my toys right now.
Or a look that said, You adopted a WHAT?
So let’s be honest. We love Zoey to bits, and we’ll always consider her our first-born pet-child. She had a rough start before we adopted her, and we’ve loved watching her grow comfortable with us and show us her loving side, like when she snuggles between us at night.
Or when she tries to keep us from doing work when we should be loving on her.
Or when she lets down her guard and we get to see that sweet smile.
But Scout doesn’t get the benefit of any of this sweet Zoeyness. In fact, Zoey is sometimes downright mean to her. It breaks my heart.
As this escalated over the past three weeks or so, we’ve tried to monitor it and correct Zoey when needed. When we first brought Scout home, we wanted Zoey to feel like she wasn’t being replaced and could tell Scout herself when her boundaries were being pushed too far. That line seems to have spread now to where Zoey will just smack Scout for even standing near her, as happened tonight at dinner.
This really does upset us. We want the girls (as we collectively refer to Scout and Zo) to be friends, and if this isn’t possible, to at least be cordial. Scout, for her part, acts sad when Zoey hits her, and in recent weeks has begun to simply ignore Zoey altogether (she used to try to elicit some loving, but not anymore). I think the saddest part is that we know how much of a sweetie Zoey really is, so it’s sad that she won’t show this to Scout, who wants nothing more than to be loved by her.
We’ll have to figure out how we can help Zoey move in this direction, and until then, continue to correct her firmly whenever she becomes Zoey the Bully.